Step 329: If someone is waiting on something they *really* want that is out of their control, don’t constantly ask them if it’s happened yet

adulting:

Is your friend …

• Unemployed and searching for a job?
• Wanting to find the right someone but hasn’t?
• Trying to get pregnant and having a hard time with it?
• Waiting to hear back from that dream grad school program?

When the thing they have desperately been waiting for happens, they will tell you. Peppering them with questions and/or unsolicited advice on how they can better achieve this life goal is probably not what they’re looking for.

Instead, it’s just depressing to have to vocalize, again and again, that no, the thing they want has not yet happened, and then have to sit patiently while the other person tells them to keep their chin up, or that the right one is coming, or whatever.

It’s great to ask, more generally, how everything is with them. If they want to cry on your shoulder or share great news, they will. 

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torisoulphoenix:

exgynocraticgrrl:

Kerry Washington performing Sojourner Truth's 1851 "Ain't I A Woman" speech

 A clip from the History Channel’s “The People Speak”

YAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAASSSSSSSS!!!!!!!!!

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oppreciate:

kivrin:

In honor of Julie Andrews’ birthday, a documentary about the recording of The King and I she made with Ben Kingsley as the King and Lea Salonga as Tuptim. 

This documentary is amazing. Watch it.

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Eli to Victoria: The Afterlife.

dionysae baronessfrankenstein

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Laura Benanti as Baroness Elsa von Schraeder in The Sound of Music Live! 

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“Narnia! It’s all in the wardrobe just like I told you!” 

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Bookphile Opines: Re-reading Mockingjay: The Dehumanization of Gale Hawthorn, and why District 13 is worse than the Capitol

bookphile:

*Big Spoilers for the entire Hunger Games series*

When it comes to war, lines are always blurred. The good and the bad depend on where you are standing. However, when it comes to the Oppressed vs Oppressor, each side is more defined. The Oppressor is usually a force that has made life a struggle for the Oppressed; there is lack of freedom, there is lack of justice, and there is lack of hope. Subsequently a new side arises, usually the Resistance, who will fight the Oppressor to free the Oppressed. The odd thing is that Resistance has more similarities with the Oppressor than the Oppressed, even though it is the Oppressed that make up the Resistance.

Why? Because because the Resistance has to suppress the Oppressor. They have to fight the Oppressor, and if they win, they are the ones who become the new government. What makes the Resistance different is how they chose to fight the Oppressor. And it’s very easy for them to become the new Oppressor because the way they choose to fight may make them no better than the oppressor. Which is where Gale Hawthrone, and the entire District 13 fall. They are no better than the Capitol, and in fact, I’d argue that they’re even worse.

Gale hates the Capitol with a passion. Even in book one, Katniss notes that Gale would often go on rants and become extremely angry. Gale even says that he’d kill every single one of the Capitol people. In the second book, he becomes slightly worse, because his best friend is yet again forced to go and play in the Games and kill people. He wants to do something, but he can’t, his hands are tied. Then comes book three, and District 13 gives Gale exactly what he wanted, a way to kill as many Capitol people as he can.

There is one scene in the book, that shocks both the reader and Katniss. When Katniss comes across sketches of weapons that Gale has designed to kill people as effectively as possible. The bombs that kill in waves:  the first bomb kills a few people and then when aid comes, the second bomb kills the rest. When they are talking about bombing the Mountain, Katniss wants an exit to open, so that innocent people can escape. Gale is bitterly against such an idea. Everyone else expresses some doubts, but all protests are empty, and no one comes up with a good argument to contradict him. “They killed all of us. Why should we spare any of them?”

What nobody said, that really needed to be said, was: “because it will make you no better than them.” Because, Gale, if you kill everyone without a thought that some within the corrupt system may be just as Oppressed as you are. Than the system you are fighting for will not help everyone. Particularly the Capitol. Katniss says many times that she finds many in the Capitol simply ignorant, but not cruel. That they may stupid and desensitized, but they are not cruel. They are just another kind of victims of the Capitol. And they’re about to become victims of the Resistance as well.

Katniss’ prep-team is treated like animals because they stole some bread, until she accidentally stumbles upon them and demands that they go free. When the fight is in the Capitol, the Resistance freely fires into Capitol citizens, young or old. And worse, of course, is when they drop the first bomb on the children, pretending to be the Capitol, and the second bomb on the aid that comes to them. Including Prim.

Katniss kills Coin because she knows she is going to be the new President Snow. Because the bomb that killed her sister helped her realize that the Resistance has become the new Oppressor. Because having the new Hunger Games with the children of the Capitol didn’t mean that they won, it just means they traded one dictator for another. Except one that is worst than the previous one. Because they know the cost of such an evil, and they are willing to do it out of spite, out of anger, and out of pure vengeance. Not out of desire for freedom, not for hope of peace, and not to make the world better for the children.

No, the children were the first they were willing to sacrifice.

(Here’s a great alternative post in defense of Gale Hawthorne: link)

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Parade at the Mark Taper Forum

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